4 Ways to Be More Present During Conversations
May 10, 2018 by Barb Cinelli

Three people talking

As technology creeps into more areas of our lives, face-to-face communication is becoming increasingly foreign. Although communicating in-person has become more challenging, there are ways you can restore your communication skills.

These communication tips can help you not only be a more efficient communicator, but can also help you stay present during a conversation.

  • Be conscious of your body language. – Try to avoid doing things with your body language that could be viewed negatively. This includes actions such as leaning back, avoiding eye contact, crossing your arms, slouching, and sighing. However, sometimes it can be difficult to figure out what you are doing while speaking or where you can improve with your nonverbal communication. In our Executive Presentation Skills® seminars, we actually video record participants so they can see where they are using negative body language and other actions that could be inhibiting them as effective presenters.
  • Be specific in your statements, but not overly so. – Communication is truly unlocked when the right balance of specifics is found. When you give too many details or facts in a conversation, you may come off as a know-it-all or rather condescending. On the other hand, too few specifics can muddle the clarity of what you are trying to say. While having a conversation, consider your audience and their level of understanding about the subject at hand. If they seem to already know the information, try saying something like, “You might have already heard this.” If your conversation partner looks a bit lost, ask a question that invites them to inquire about what they find confusing.
  • Be a participant in the conversation, not a lecturer. – Remember that it is important to talk with someone, not at someone in a conversation. After all, it is a conversation between two people, not a speech. Instead of spewing facts at your conversation partner, try to incorporate their perspective by asking questions and do your best to make it clear how the topic is relevant to them.
  • Be a listener. – Listening during a conversation is a choice, which means that you must make the active choice to focus on the conversation at hand. Thinking about listening as a choice can help keep you accountable, as there is no such thing as multitasking when you are trying to be an effective communication partner. 

During your next important business meeting or informal conversation, be sure to keep these tips in mind so that you can have a successful conversation.

From leadership communication to presentation skills, we at Communispond are proud to offer an array of training options to help you improve your communication skills. Contact us today to learn more about our training courses!